I Love You To Death.

Reading this post will upset some of you. I don’t write from a position of wishful thinking, but rather from one of personal experience. I’m a recovering addict who works in the field of addiction. I’ve sat with hundreds of addicts and their families, and one thing is very clear; Addiction needs help to progress
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Lest We Forget

Thoughts tumble back and forth, playing hide and seek. They’re teasers, barley revealing themselves before racing off again. A flash of colour, red, yellow and gold. It was a cold day in the dying, autumn landscape. This is what’s it’s like to live inside my mind, where ten things are happening all at once. As
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Addiction Says

Hey little girl, I’ve got something you need. A pill to make you pretty, oh yes indeed! Just one taste and you’ll be mine Your head will spin, you’ll feel so fine! I’m cunning, baffling, and powerful too. I’m larger than life and bigger than you. I’ll tell you things that aren’t even true For
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Letting Go Isn’t Easy.

A Letter To My Addicted Adult Child. My Dear Child, I feel like I’m saying goodbye to you and in a way, I suppose I am. I will always love you. I want the very best for you and I’m prepared to do the most unnatural thing a mother will ever do. My minds screams
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Hold On.

144 people die each day across North America from overdose. This means; Mothers are losing their babies. Lovers are losing their partners Children are losing their parents. Sisters are losing their brothers. Addicts are losing their lives. And no one is immune. If you’re struggling with addiction, there’s medication that will help you with your
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Can’t. A Slow Won’t.

The words you use don’t just communicate meaning, they also describe your personality, beliefs and dictate your quality of life. There will always be Nay Sayers and Doomsday Prophets among us, but nothing is more self-defeating than the word can’t. Can’t is a lie. What does can’t really mean? You can’t … fly. But wait
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Addiction Feeds On Pain.

Pain can be a beautiful thing. It tells us when something’s wrong or we need to make changes. From pain emerges growth and from growth, wisdom But not everyone learns from pain. Addicted individuals don’t cope well with difficult emotions due to a chemically imbalanced brain. Instead of feeling their pain, folks with this illness react
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Easter and Addiction In The Family.

Today families all across North America will be sitting down at the dinner table to celebrate Easter. Mom is up early making the dressing.The turkey is defrosting in the laundry room sink. Children wake up excited and raring to go. Others might have taken this time as an opportunity to catch up on their beauty
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Are We Becoming Desensitized To Overdose?

Death by overdose kills 144 persons a day. We’ve all seen the dismal stories on the news and social media sites. Or the cell phone videos of someone overdosing in their car or on the street. You may even hear comments like ‘junkie, you’d be better off dead.’ Until you lose someone you love, death by overdose is just something
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The Addict’s Child.

I am not your parent, or spouse, or friend. I am your CHILD. Only you don’t parent me anymore. You don’t care about me. You only care about getting high. You LOVE getting high. You will do ANYTHING to get high. You NEED to get high… and you step over me to do it. When you
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Politics and the Alcoholic Family.

 It’s hard to scroll through posts on social media or watch TV without coming upon political rants. Witnessing the political divide fracturing North America is frightening. Seriously, I am deeply concerned. I choose not to fan this fire by sharing put down memes. Some of the statements I have read and listened to are so
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Addiction is a Family Affair

Addiction is a Family Affair By Jodi Takhar “Jagged Little Lies,” is the second book in the Jagged Series by Lorelie Rozzano. Lorelie is a person in long-term recovery who has worked at Edgewood, a treatment center in Nanaimo, British Columbia. Like myself, Lorelie has been on both sides of addiction, as the addict and
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Let’s Give Our Kids A Voice.

“Children of addicted parents are the highest risk group of children to become alcohol and drug abusers due to both genetic and family environmental factors.” – NACoA Did you know… Children who grow up in families that struggle with addiction, learn that feelings are dangerous. Children often feel responsible for the problems in their family.
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A book review by therapist Jodi Takhar

A book review by Jodi Takhar  JAGGED LITTLE EDGES Being a person in long-term recovery and working as a family addictions therapist, I have read loads of books, articles and material about addiction. Having said that, I have just read the most amazing book about addiction and I felt compelled to share it with
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If You Don’t Understand Addiction This Will Help.

Back by popular demand! At 16 I knew it all. Everything. There was nothing you could have said or done, that would have impressed this super cool chick. Of course that was on the outside. Inside I was fearful, insecure and needy. The combination of these two may be the most confusing part of this
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