Thought for the day.

Did you know it takes as much effort to be happy, as it does to be miserable. Good Morning. Thought for the day. We choose our clothes, our food, our home, our furniture. We choose our friends, our TV shows and the cars we drive. We choose the Christmas presents we so lovingly wrap and
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A POWERLESS RANT.

Sometimes I’d like to scream, or cry. Or maybe pound the walls until my knuckles are bruised and bloodied. Instead I take a deep breath and bite my tongue. Literally. There is no greater frustration than families ‘helping‘ when it comes to addiction. Addiction is a progressive and terminal disease. It can’t survive without an
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Fear or Faith? Your choice.

We all know that suffocating FEAR we feel when our loved one is an addict. It’s a heavy, exhausting blanket of of what if’s and brain noise. The more attention we pay it, the bigger it grows. So how do we minimize our fear? Truthfully, you don’t. Not until you have something else to put
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I LOVE you to DEATH.

I know reading this post is going to upset some of you. I don’t write from a position of wishful thinking, but rather one of experience. Not only am I a recovering addict of 17 years. I work in the field of addiction and I’ve sat with hundreds of addicts and their families, and one
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Celebrating the holidays and family dynamics.

Happy Thanksgiving Canada! Many families will soon be sitting down at the dinner table together, to celebrate Thanksgiving. Mom is up early. She is busy making the dressing, as the turkey sits out waiting to be stuffed. Others in the household might have taken this time as an opportunity to catch up on their beauty
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Are your kids effected by addiction?

My conversation with Denise Krochta on Addicted to Addicts: Survival 101. This week’s show is all about planning for a peaceful and joyful Holiday Season no matter what chaos and drama is in our lives.  The discussion is about what we can do ahead of time so we plan before a crisis happens.  Denise shares
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Hold On Pain Ends.

17 years ago I couldn’t imagine life without A and D. Today I can’t imagine life with it. Back then if I’d been asked, I would have told you getting clean was the hardest thing I would ever do. But today looking back, I realize that’s not true. The hardest thing I ever do in
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Addiction. We don’t get here alone.

Once there was a man who was walking in the forest. He spotted a river from the distance. The river sparkled brightly in the light of day. It was coloured a bright purple, green. The man looked on mesmerized. He had never seen such a beautiful river! As he got closer he saw that the river
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Just Say When.

I don’t think I was born BAD A beautiful little girl Who became very sad Born into the disease Of alcoholism and blame Filled with sorrow and guilt Regret and shame. A pit of emptiness Harbouring endless pain Drinking away sorrows For future horrors A numbed out peace Of mindless release An endless task A hole
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Thought for the day.

Good Morning! Thought for the day. We choose our clothes, our food, our home, our furniture. We choose our friends, our TV shows and the cars we drive. We choose the Christmas presents we so lovingly wrap and place under the tree. We choose the music we listen too. We choose when to get up,
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Are you being manipulated by addiction?

Those of us who struggle with addiction know one thing for sure. How to manipulate! As a child growing up in an alcoholic home, I earned my masters degree in the art of manipulation. It was my job – at least I thought it was and I took it on – to keep the peace in my
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Underdogs are a successful pack!

Today is not my best day. I’ve been achy for the past few days and up since 2 am with other flu-like symptoms. It was weird laying in bed last night. I was talking with God. I haven’t had a heart-to-heart chat with him like that in a long time! My relationship with my higher
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Shame.

I must confess. There are times I wish I could drink. At social gatherings, or on a hot sunny day. I miss rum and eggnog at Christmas, or drinking on vacations. I don’t spend a lot of time thinking about it. The thoughts are there, but fleeting. In recovery I learned to play the tape all the
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5 warnings signs that can lead you to RELAPSE.

Whether you’re a newly sober addict, alcoholic, or the family member of one, one thing’s for sure. If you’re going to stay healthy, you’ll need to work a program of recovery. The addict/alcoholic’s  main goal in early recovery is to stay abstinent. While the codependent’s is learning how to say no and set healthy boundaries. For
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Meet my family!

Have you ever wondered where you might be if only you’d sobered up? Getting clean and sober is never easy. But living in addiction, is hell. Throughout the years, one thing has stayed the same. Our sobriety. My husband and I went through treatment, me first, and then him, 17 years ago. The following pictures are
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Addiction. Know your enemy.

A young man crossed my path, strutting in front of me. He bumped into me with an oomph, and a dirty look. In his hand he clutched a clear plastic cup, filled to the brim with hot coffee. He didn’t spill a drop. The young man was tall and lean. His designer clothes hung on
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Has addiction torn your family apart?

Do you love someone who struggles with addiction? Learn what works when recovering from addiction. I wrote the Jagged series to help addicts and their families understand there is hope. I share through my own personal (17 years clean and sober) and clinical (I work in the field of addiction) experience, while working with hundreds of addicts and
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Can 99 cents change your life?

Starting tomorrow my books, Jagged Little Edges and Jagged Little Lies, will be on sale for 99 cents ( e books only) This is a once a year sale only. The sale will last throughout this following weekend (August 28 – Sept 2)  and then not again until this time next year. I hear from
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Cunning, baffling and patient!

I’m lucky to work in a treatment centre where I get to see first-hand what happens to addicts when they use. With a little time in, it’s easy to forget the devastation addiction caused. There are days I still wish I could use. I’d like to feel the buzz again and be more sociable. Although
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