Independence Day – Is it just a pipe dream for those struggling with addiction?

July 4th is right around the corner and soon, people all across America will be celebrating Independence Day. Flags will fly, barbeques will smoke, and fireworks will light up the night. Freedom in America is a constitutional right. But for the many addicted and their families, freedom and independence, is only a pipe dream.
For those struggling with addiction, independence from their drug of choice, without medical detox, will cause painful withdrawal. Addiction creates physical and emotional symptoms, and changes your brain chemistry. Many will first start using for relief, only to discover that the relief they sought, comes with a shackle, ball and chain, fractured families, divorce papers, loss of employment, bankruptcy, jail cells, institutions and/or death.
There are very few people, whose lives haven’t been affected by addiction. Far too many of us, know the heartache and devastation, of loving an addict, or being, one.
Independence is defined as ‘the state or quality of being independent’ –
Perhaps we could define addiction as ‘the state or quality of being dependent on a mood altering substance, with life damaging consequences, culminating in a terminal outcome, aided by family.’
It’s a mouthful, but it works.
To put it simply, addiction is a family disease. Everyone is affected. Whether you’re the addicted person, or their spouse or family member, no one will come through this, unscathed.
Loving an addict is like riding a roller coaster. The emotional ups and downs, and twists and turns, leave you breathless and sick to your stomach. The addict is the pilot; you on the other hand, are just along for the ride. Your emotions and well being are completely dependent on the addicted person. While they head, face first, for another crash, you, crash with them. You wear their scars. Yet they refuse to stop the roller coaster. They will not get off the ride. As you ride next to them, you grow progressively sicker. The rest of your family stands below. They beg you to get off. They can see the horrible effects; this ride is having on you. Beside you is the addict, who strangely, seems to thrive on the chaos. To him or her, the roller coaster is normal. You, on the other hand, will need to readjust your normal, to theirs, if you hope to continue riding beside them. The roller coaster lurches beneath you. If you’re not careful, you’ll be thrown from your seat. Death surely lies, below. Your family yells from the sidelines, ‘get off!’ It seems you have a choice to make. You can remain stuck to your seat, or you can get off the ride. What you can’t do, at least alone, is stop the roller coaster, or make the addict get off. Keep in mind losing one family member to addiction is sad, losing two… is tragic.
Thankfully, with help, there is a way to stop this crazy ride.
Addiction doesn’t have to end tragically. There is another option – Recovery.
Recovery is defined as, ‘The regaining of or possibility of regaining something lost or taken away. Restoration or return to health from sickness.’ –
Recovering from addiction is a little like waking up from a coma. Everything is brand new and shiny again. I was a slave to my addiction for years, and I can tell you from personal experience, there is no freedom as great, or as profound, as waking up each morning happy, healthy and clean.
Addiction is a treatable disease, not a moral failure. Although you can’t cure it, you can put it into remission and live a very happy and successful life, with it.
If you had to have a disease, I’d choose this one, hands down!
Because addiction – and the family’s response to it – is predictable, it carries a high success rate of cure, and like anything else, the success rate is greatest if caught in the early stages,
The Declaration of Independence states – All men are created equal and have certain rights, like life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.
It doesn’t say we were brought here to be enslaved by addiction, or to live out the rest of our days, in a hazy, numbed out, hell-like existence.
Since I sobered up in 97 I’ve met thousands of others who have sobered up, too. Don’t believe the lies. We do recover! There’s more help available now, than there ever was before.
The good news? If you’re an addict, you have a highly treatable illness.
The bad news? Your illness gets worse, not better, over time. Just like cancer the longer you wait to seek treatment, the harder it’s going to be.
The good news? All you have to do is pick up the phone, to start your new life.
I made the call.
Will you?

Lorelie Rozzano

If you or someone you know needs help, please call this confidential support line for assistance. 1 888 614-2379.


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  1. fedupaddictmom

    I am in recovery from a 13 year opiate opiod addiction I have only just beagn working on my recover with 3 wekks clean. It’s not easy but there is help and there are so many options out there. Karen I will pray for you I lost my brother through suicide and addiction I refused to let my addiction take my life and my family. I could not figure out why this independance day felt so good well great actually it was my first holiday clean in a long time. I felt free I felt amazing what a great holiday to celebrate as my first holiday in recovery. Sorry for the book but I had to get out how great it felt and wanted to let others know it is possible there are many roads twords recovery please do not give up on finding help keep trying its only to late when you give up

  2. Karen

    I am the mother of 3 addicts. Two are heroin and one is alcohol and Xanax. The oldest is 31 with 2 children taken Away. I have her 5 yr old son. She is getting her 2 yr old daughter back next month. She is still using but has fooled the system. Next is my 28 yr old daughter who has a supervisor position in a hospital. She has superficially cut her wrists and another time clogged her tailpipe of her car. My son is 25 just relapsed on heroin. He has overdosed a few times. Waiting for a bed in detox now. I am 59 and have been living in fear. I go to Alanon and therapy and am Roman Catholic .i am in such pain,

    • Lorelie

      Karen, I am so sorry. May you find comfort in your faith and those precious grand-babies.

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