Those of us involved with addiction often have little or no boundaries.

Boundaries define who we are and how we let other people treat us.
In order to stay in relationship with addiction, we compromise those boundaries. A line is crossed where abusive, manipulative behaviour is tolerated, excused and sometimes, defended.
The progression of the family disease is every bit as progressive as the addicts.
When we have little or no boundaries the message we’re actually sending is loud and clear.

‘It’s OK to treat me this way.’ ‘Your needs are more important than mine.’

A sure sign of recovery for family members, is taking steps to define healthy boundaries and sticking to the bottom line.
A sure sign of recovery for the addict, is not manipulating family members into giving money, or anything else for that matter.

As Dr. Phil says, we teach people how to treat us.

Actions speak louder than words. If you’re looking for the truth don’t listen to what someone is saying, watch what they do.

When you enable addiction, you cripple yourself and your loved one.