When our children are babies, there are times we take them from our hip allowing them to stand. We can’t make their legs stronger, but the practice of standing increases muscle strength and soon, you will find your child climbing up on anything she, or he, can, Now just imagine if you were fearful and never took this baby from your hip. You’d go to any lengths to protect your child from a fall. If we protect our children from every little fall, they never develop the ability to stand, let alone walk. Children come into our world completely dependent on us for their every need. Our job as a parent is preparing our children for adulthood. This means our children are independent and able to look after themselves. This also applies to addiction. The hardest job a parent or family faces is to let go. Let go and Let God. I saw this on The Addicts Mom today. It resonated with me and I wanted to share it with you.
IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL by Sherry LeAnn
IF you love me let me fall all by myself. Don’t try to spread a net out to catch me, don’t throw a pillow under my ass to cushion the pain so I don’t have to feel it, don’t stand in the place I am going to land so that you can break the fall, (allowing yourself to get hurt instead of me).
If I am allowed to stay at the bottom and live there for a while, I am free to get sick of it on my own, free to begin to want out, free to look for a way out, and free to plan how I will climb back up to the top. In the beginning, as I start to climb out….I just might slide back down, but doesn’t worry I might have to hit bottom a couple more times before I make it out safe and sound. Don’t you see?? Don’t you know?? You can’t do this for me…I have to do it for myself, but if you are always breaking the fall how am I ever supposed to feel the pain that is part of the driving force to want to get well. It is my burden to carry, not yours. I know you love me and that you mean well and a lot of what you do is because you don’t know what to do and you act from your heart and from the knowledge of what is best for me….but if you truly love me, let me go my own way, make my own choices be they bad or good.
