A Letter To My Addicted Adult Child.

My Dear Child,
I feel like I’m saying goodbye to you and in a way, I suppose I am. I will always love you. I want the very best for you and I’m prepared to do the most unnatural thing a mother will ever do. My minds screams I’m abandoning you. Oh, I know you’re all grown up, but to me you’ll always be my baby. Maybe that’s part of the problem. My nature is to protect you. I see you broken and despairing, and I am broken and despairing too. If you had cancer, or heart disease, I would fight tooth and nail to get you the care you need. In a strange way, this is me fighting. It’s the hardest fight I’ve ever fought. It would be far easier to stand at your hospital bed knowing that what I was doing was helping you. But there is no hospital bed. There is no cancer, or heart disease. What there is – is an insidious little secret – one that has grown into a horrible, ugly beast. It is devouring you alive, and me, along with it. I’ve watched this monster grow. I pleaded with it, coddled it and even nurtured it. I’ve done everything I can think of to make this THING go away. But it only grows more powerful. So I am left to face the truth. You my precious child, are an addict. An addict! Oh my God! I can barely say it. I feel sick. I HATE that word. And yet, it’s true. Why does the truth have to be so hard? Even harder, is what I still have to do. All my life I have watched over you and now I have to set you free. Not because I want too. Because I NEED to. It’s the only thing I can do that might save your life. But the process may also end it. I’m told by other addicts and professionals, and other Mom’s who have gone before me, you have a better chance at success if I do this. Almost always, this works. Believe me, ‘almost’ is nowhere near comforting enough. If I wasn’t sure I was helping you to die, I would never choose this. But here I am, between a rock and hard place. With no good choices, only hard and worse ones. Before I let you go, know this. I am here for you, always. I am here for YOU. Not for your disease, but the you I know hides somewhere deep down inside the addict. Whether you get clean by intervention, or you growing weary of the consequences now that you’ll be dealing with them, or by divine intervention, this insanity will stop. If you ever thought it might be hard quitting drugs my dear, you should try walking away from your child! I know we’ve both grown sick with this monster. You’re not the only one who needs help. I do too. I promise you I will do everything that is asked of me, even if I think I’m going to hate every minute of it. I’ll do it, because I know if I do, you might. I promise not to ask you to do anything that I won’t do. I would ask you to take care but you will only smile and nod and carry on as before. The words would only make me feel better. They’re of no use to you. So instead, I shall give you to God. I don’t know who else to trust with you. I’ll wrap you in your favourite baby blanket. The one you dragged behind you until it was nothing but rags. I pray we both have the strength to do the next right thing, even, when it feels so wrong.
Love always, Mom.

LorelieRozzano www.jaggedlittleedges.com

 

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